Liam Payne from 1D, #1 in the montage last night, has grown up enough -- physically and mentally -- to stop manscaping. Here's a selfie showing what he's got. Not great pic quality but definitely a great trend . . . and he's still showing abs . . .
Thursday, January 28, 2016
Wednesday, January 27, 2016
Wednesday PM
Liam Payne lookin' great w/natural chest.
Not a Belieber, but cool seein' the natural color of
his armpit pubes, not like the bleached blond hair.
The BRO Phenom
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joe-kort-phd/the-bro-phenom-and-the-de_b_9072324.html?utm_hp_ref=gay-voices
The BRO Phenom, and the Demise of Sexual Labeling: An App That Connects Straight Men for Sex Is Challenging Simple Definitions
Joe Kort, Ph.D. | Psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, and relationship therapist at Joe Kort & Associates, PC www.joekort.com
01/26/2016
01/26/2016
There is something fascinating going on in the basement of our culture.
Not all that long ago, there were a relatively small number of words we used to describe sexual orientation: heterosexual (straight), homosexual (gay), bisexual (attracted to both genders), asexual (not attracted to sex), etc. But over recent decades, it's as though our culture's subterranean sexual boiler, the one that produces and reinforces the hot new labels and language trends, has become superheated.
Facebook, for instance, lists some 51 sexual orientation labels by which users can identify themselves, and these are ever expanding on countless Internet sites and discussion forums. It's enough to make therapists, who often see it as our responsibility to name the slippery things going on in our psyches in order to help our clients with identity problems, a little despondent.
The latest blast from the basement that has people scrambling for naming conventions has shown up on the Internet as BRO, "The Social App Just for Men," a site dedicated to straight men seeking other straight men for sex. BRO's founder, Scott Kutler, explains in one interview why he was inspired to create the app: "... mainly because I felt there was a huge segment of men that don't feel welcome in the "gay" community--be it 'bi' guys or gay men that don't fit the 'gay' stereotype." Or how about otherwise straight guys who have erotic fantasies about sex with other men? Or straight guys who want to prove to themselves through such sexual exploration that they are, after all, straight? What kind of label is appropriate here?
Once we begin to realize that there can be such a thing as an erotic identity coexisting with a different sexual identity, and that either of these states of mind are fluid and can change over the course of a lifetime, then we begin to think it might make sense to get out of the naming game altogether ... if only we could. What do you call the straight man who has sexual interest in women, as well as erotic interest in gay sex?
Jane Ward, the brilliant author of Not Gay: Sex between Straight White Men, offers another reasonable perspective: "When straight-identified people engage in homosexual sex and they have no interest whatsoever in bi identification or gay identification, they want nothing to do with queer subculture, they're deeply invested in heteronormativity, they feel very comfortable with straightness, they want to be understood as straight, then it's actually most useful to say these people are straight."
Most people outside of the sex-therapy community have never considered the existence of a multi-universe of sexual identities, but those of us immersed in this stickiest of human foibles have come to realize that there is much yet to discover. Let me offer some common examples, all of which I have encountered:
- The family man, happily married with kids, who loves his wife, loves having sex with her and who finds himself seeking out a young man who will whip and humiliate him.
- The cuckold, who considers himself to be straight, but will indulge his wife by finding someone to have sex with her while he watches, even fellating the fellow to arouse him to the task.
- The lesbian activist who has erotic fantasies about being violently raped by a gang of straight men.
- The gay man who is into BDSM, but who seeks out a mistress to tie him up and slap him around.
- The woman or man who is into muscle worship, regardless of the gender of the worshipped person.
- The person who is turned on by the cash paid for sex, again regardless of the payee's gender.
One has to ask, then, is it really essential for us to have labels for the seemingly endless nuance of sexual expression? Many of the comments I've read about the BRO app from gay men, for instance, reveal defensiveness about not labeling BRO app users as gay or bi, as if not doing so is a threat to their own hard-won place in the pantheon of identity archetypes. From my point of view, however, the need for a label pales in comparison to the potential, perhaps, for a community to develop for men who have not yet found their own cultural and/or sexual and/or erotic identity, men who identify as heterosexual, but who are aroused by the eroticism of gay sex, or men who are simply trying figure it all out. BRO gives them permission to explore who they really are.
So, given the ongoing explosion of sexual awareness rising from the basement of our cultural psyche, there very well may come a time when we are forced to abandon our proclivity to pigeonhole our preferences altogether, despite the unease this is likely to cause members of various subcultures. With the tectonic plates beneath our cultural psyche shifting so rapidly, we may have to learn how to maintain our balance and simply stand tall for who we are, and live with the ambiguity.
Tuesday, January 26, 2016
Hot Shot of the Evening
Continuing what seems to be a theme lately -- sun and sand -- this dude is fucking hot. Looks like volleyball. Could be So-Cal, could be Israel, doesn't really matter, as far as I'm concerned he's already won the game!
Monday, January 25, 2016
Sunday, January 24, 2016
James Franco to Star in '70s Adult Film Drama, 'The Deuce'
James Franco will play the role of mob twins Vincent and Frankie Martino.
BY XAVIER PIEDRA
FRI, 2016-01-22
HBO has ordered a new
series that will take place in Times Square during
the rise of the porn industry during the 70s. From the creators of The
Wire, the upcoming HBO drama The Deuce will star James Franco as mobster twins
Vincent and Frankie Martino— forerunners of the sex
industry.
The title
of The Deuce was street slang for the block of 42nd
street between Seventh and Eighth Avenues before it was cleaned up by the late
90s. The series will follow the legalization of the porn industry before the
rise of HIV and the cocaine epidemic that ended the era.
Franco will
also star alongside Broadway star and actress Maggie Gyllenhaal. Gyllenhaal will
be playing the role of Candy, a prostitute who works her way into the porn
industry.
No official
airdate has been released, but it's a safe bet that Franco will probably be
naked.
One of the more ludicrous (or is it disgusting?) things I've seen
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Erotic Donald Trump Novel is Getting Spectacular Reviews on Amazon
Suddenly this photo means so much more.
Everyone’s favorite GOP presidential hopeful is making his mark on
the literary world – though not by his choice – with a new book that recently
hit Amazon. Titled Trump
Temptation: The Billionaire & The Bellboy, the bargain book is bound to
become a masterpiece of the erotic lit world.
Think
the gay version of 50
Shades of Grey but with bigots and
flailing toupees.
For
those of you sad souls who have yet to catch an excerpt, here’s what you’re
missing:
“My loins trembled as the scent of toupee adhesive and spray tan swept through my nasal cavity”“His gorgeous a** flapped behind him like a mouthwatering stack of pancakes in his pants. My hunger for pancakes had never been stronger.”“I had to admit it, I wanted his geriatric 2006 Perez Hilton jello body, and I wanted it bad.“The door creaked open and there he was, handsome as ever, like a giant melting fat carrot with fake hair.”
Saturday, January 23, 2016
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